Tabuu Wrap-up: Ball gags may look super intimidating, but they’re all about trust and release.

Isn’t porn amazing… We see a woman with a ball gag deep in her mouth, held tightly in place by the two solid leather straps. The discomfort is clear as she tries to speak but can only manage a muzzled yelp. The drool runs down her face as she can barely handle the sheer size of the ball gag… now who isn’t slightly intimidated by this stage?!?!

That’s what most people imagine when someone says “ball gag”. Why? Because it’s what we’ve seen in porn for a long time, and it’s very difficult to escape. This is why so many people out there are afraid to give ball gags a try. They look too intimidating, humiliating, and uncomfortable to enjoy.

However, we must remember porn is not a faithful reenactment of anything. Things are exaggerated and it’s meant to serve a purpose. But it’s not the best way to educate yourself on kink.

The experience in real life doesn’t have to be like the fantasy that’s always being portrayed in porn. That’s not for everyone. But that’s not to say ball gags are not worth trying out. Especially if you’re interested in a dominant/submissive or d/s dynamic. The trick is educating yourself and doing it right!

There’s a visual aspect to ball gags, which is what we’re fed in porn, and it’s impressive. And sure, people can use them just for that kind of image. But for many people, using ball gags is not about visuals, it’s about how vulnerable they make you feel. You’re not the one in control, that’s for certain.

When you’re wearing a ball gag, your speech is taken away from you. You have no voice, all you have is your more instinctual and natural reactions. And that’s wonderful. For many people, being able to access that part of themselves is amazing. Of course, safety is important, which is why you need a safe sign in case you want to stop.

When speech is impossible, you no longer have the need to analyze everything. For once, you’re just focused on feeling. You completely let go. Some people can do this on their own, but many need this kind of experience to get them to the point where they just feel.

You have no voice, all you have is your more instinctual and natural reactions.

In wearing a ball gag, you’re placing all your trust in your partner. You’re trusting them not to hurt you when you’re as vulnerable as you are at that moment. You’re trusting them to understand the way you’re feeling based solely on your reactions and movements. And you’re trusting them to decide for you, based on what they know you need and desire, not based on feedback.

Playing with a ball gag will help you realize you have more strength than you know. For submissives, the ball gag experience shows them how they can endure humiliation and rise from it. The humiliation is a role, it doesn’t define them. They’re not weak, they’re not pushovers; they’re resilient.

Contrary to what you may think, ball gags are not only for people who practice hardcore BDSM. This means it doesn’t have to be as intimidating as it’s shown in pornography. A small ball gag will work as well as a larger one. In fact, many people prefer smaller ball gags because they cause less pain and strain.

When choosing your ball gag, you want to make sure it gives a little and it’s soft enough. Ball gags made of hard plastic will be harder for your teeth and jaw. Go for silicone balls instead, which are soft, smooth, and resistant to bacteria.

This Oddo Leather Atlas Ball Gag has a soft strap made of leather, a silicone ball, and it looks beautiful.

You’re also free to choose any color you want. Red or black ball gags are the most common in BDSM because it adds to that intimidating visual, but you can go for a pink one or any other color you prefer.

If it’s done right, ball gags can be so much fun! They may look intimidating when they’re used for shock value and to create a certain type of visual experience. But when you wear them yourself, it’s all about pleasure, trust, and letting go.

Granted, it’s not for everyone! Not everyone enjoys to being in such a vulnerable position. But for the people that do enjoy it, ball gags will offer a unique, liberating experience.

It’s great to have curiosity and to try new things in bed. If ball gags are on your list, don’t be afraid to give them a try. They are safe and they’re a complete thrill!