Tabuu Wrap-up: The road to better sex is not easy, but it can be more straightforward than you think.
Many resources will lead you to believe that the secret to an exciting sex life lies in spending big bucks on sex toys, accessories, and complicated tools. I’m not saying sex swings or sex toys are not worthwhile. They definitely can spice things up. But in all honesty, those things are just objects, and while they can be great tools and serve a unique purpose, there’s a lot more to sexual fulfillment than toys.
Like most things in life, the truly essential factors that will make your sex life better are free! If you want your sex life to improve, things such as self-love, complicity, openness, and communication can make a greater difference than we thought. However, these things are not easy to achieve. So, if you want to work towards them, here are 9 easiest tips to get you there!
1. Pay More Attention to Kissing
Remember how it felt to have that first kiss with someone you’ve been wanting for a while? It’s electrifying, it melts you and it disarms you. In other words, kissing is very intense and it’s not just a way to express you’re sexually or romantically interested in someone. According to neuroscientists and psychologists, when we kiss, we transmit genetic and chemical information to one another about how compatible we are. Not to mention we release oxytocin, which is the hormone for bonding. The bottom line? Kiss more often!
2. Practice Self-Love
If you don’t love your body, it’s not going to perform well in bed, no matter what kind of moves you have or how much your lover applies himself or herself to the task. According to experts, people who love themselves and their bodies are more successful in dating, sex, and long-lasting relationships. You must learn to love your body and appreciate how incredible it is as well as all the pleasures it provides. Loving one’s body can be more difficult for some than others, but it will be worth the effort. Not only in sex, but in all aspects of life.
3. Take More Walks Together
Going on walks and exercising your body more often has many sexual benefits not to mention health benefits. But when you make a habit of taking walks with your partner, you’ll be reconnecting with each other, mind, and spirit. Walking on forest trails and getting in touch with nature for a while will help you let go of all the stress of daily life and spend more quality time with each other. Not to mention you can also speak openly about any issues or concerns you may be having. That will lead to a better connection between you, which is a must for better sex.
4. Express Your Love to Them and Mean It!
We all express love very differently but saying “I love you” more often has to be the most common one. That’s not to say it’s easy! It takes courage to say it for the first time, but it continues to have meaning even if you’ve said it a thousand times. Being able to say it often, and mean it, will have a great effect on your sex life as a couple. Of course, saying “I love you” is not the only way you can show your partner how you feel about them, so be free to do whatever feels more natural and meaningful.
5. Ask for What You Want
I hate to break it to you, but you need to hear it: porn and Hollywood films are nothing like real life. You probably already knew that to a certain extent, but what you may ignore is that you need to ask for what you want in the bedroom. Unlike what we see in movies, partners in real life won’t instantly and magically know what we like in bed.
And we won’t know what they like either unless we talk to them about it. When you’re in a relationship, it’s important to speak openly and honestly about your desires, what you like, and the way you experience pleasure. A partner who cares about you will be interested in those things, but they also need to be reminded, so have a conversation!
6. Have Fun With Yourself
Sexual satisfaction is not in the hands of your partner, it’s in your own hands. You need to learn to pleasure yourself if you want to teach other people to pleasure you. Regular masturbation is a big part of finding what works for you and it’s also very healthy. When you know your body and what makes it tick, it’s a lot easier to love it and appreciate yourself. It’s also easier to guide others!
7. Don’t Be Afraid to Ask Questions
Mind readers don’t really exist, which is a bummer, but figuring out what our partner likes is half of the fun. And how can you do that? Well, by asking questions. You can ask questions to your partner, to a sex expert, or both. But what matters is that you learn new things about how to enjoy sex with one another. You can’t do that if you’re in the dark!
8. Laughter Is the Best Medicine
You know what they say… laughter is the best medicine. And when it comes to sex, it makes things a lot better. Studies have proven that partners who enjoy laughter together establish a better connection and experience more pleasure in each other’s company. This will undoubtedly lead to better sex.
9. Sex Is a Healthy Part of Life
Even though sex is no longer as taboo a subject as it was before, society will still have you believe that being a sexual person is shameful and dirty. But that’s not true neither from a biological nor a psychological point of view. Sex is one of the most natural, pleasurable, and healthy aspects of life.
Sex benefits not only your body but also your mind. It improves your mood, makes you feel more confident, and it helps you stay fit. So instead of shying away from it, accept it as what it is: a healthy, beautiful, exciting part of life that you must live to the fullest.
The road to better sex is simpler than you may think, but that doesn’t mean it’s easy. It will take time and many people also need to work a lot on themselves to get there. But that doesn’t mean it’s not worth the effort. Once you do the hard work, you’ll reap amazing rewards. Just remember: have fun, don’t hold yourself back, communicate openly, and listen to your body!