Tabuu Wrap-up: Even though all G-spots are different and unique, there are a few easy steps that can make it come out and play!

One of the most common questions people ask is what’s the best sex toy or technique. Sometimes they ask vague questions, such as “Will this toy bring my baby to climax every time?”, and sometimes they’re very specific, such as “What’s the best G-spot vibrator?” “What’s the best lube?” or “What’s the best butt plug?”.

You would think it’s easy to find answers to these questions, but the truth is that no matter what the question is, there’s no one-answer-fits-all. When people ask these questions, I usually explain we’re all very different and I ask clarifying questions so I can be of guidance.

When it comes to G-spot stimulation, I explain where it’s located and I also let people know most G-spots enjoy pressure of some kind. Not everyone’s the same, though, which is why there are so many different products on the market made specifically for G-spot stimulation.  Most of the toys designed for this purpose are made of firm materials and they often have a curved shape or a hook to reach the spot a lot better.

Some sex toys for G-spot stimulation feature vibration, others don’t. They’re also made in many different materials, such as hard plastic, silicone, glass, metal, specially treated wood, etc., and the most commonly recommended ones are non-porous materials.

However, there’s no guarantee that a specific shape or material will work equally for everyone. We can discuss product quality, features, and design at length, but there’s no guarantee that you can find the perfect sex toy at the first try. Why? Because G-spots are all different. We are all different. Some women ejaculate, others don’t. Some women like direct stimulation, while others find it uncomfortable.

However difficult it is to find a toy or technique to fit them all, 4 essential steps can lead you to G-spot heaven. If you have your own G-spot and you’ve explored it enough, you may already have your technique down. But if you don’t or if you’re a partner that cares about your woman’s pleasure, these 4 steps will lead you on the right path!

4 Easy Steps to G-Spot Heaven

First thing’s first, let’s locate the G-spot. It’s approximately three inches inside the vagina, right in front of the vagina wall. It has a spongy texture and it feels like a nub if you’ve done your job right and created arousal long before you ventured inside.

G-spot stimulation has a certain order. First, you need to provide arousal and warm up the engines, then begin stimulation, and use the method that works best. The key here is being flexible and having fun so you can experiment freely. Great sex is all about exploration, and exploration shouldn’t be limited by rules. Do what feels right and pay attention to how your body (or their body, if you’re stimulating your partner) reacts to stimulation.

To guide your exploration a bit, let’s discuss each of the 4 essential steps for G-spot stimulation in detail!

1. Really Warm Things Up

Most women are more responsive to G-spot stimulation when some clitoral action is added to the mix as a warm-up. However, the foreplay can include any trick that gets your blood pumping to all the right places. The more aroused you are, the more engorged the G-spot will become, which makes it easier to find and more sensitive to stimulation as well.

Your warm-up should include anything that gets you going. Whether that’s kisses, a sexy massage, playing with a sex toy, etc. Clitoral stimulation is a popular form of foreplay and it works well because there’s a lot of erectile tissue there. The G-spot is believed to be connected to the inner side of the clitoris. So, by stimulating the clitoris you’re also preparing your G-spot for stimulation. Once you become aroused and your G-spot enlarges, it will be a lot more receptive to the next step.

2. Say Hello to the G-Spot

Now that you got your blood pumping and you’re ready to go, the next step is to say hello to the G-spot and begin stimulating it. The idea here is to start nice and slow so you can prepare the G-spot for more intense stimulation. Some people are good with gentle stimulation, other people skip it altogether. It really depends on what feels good for you. Direct stimulation to the G-spot is not something that provides pleasure for everyone, but it’s worth giving it a shot. If it doesn’t work, that’s okay!

When you’re ready to take it up a notch, a G-spot vibrator could really do the trick. You can use it directly on the G-spot or indirectly through girth or texture to provide enjoyable and pleasurable stimulation. If you don’t have a G-spot vibrator or you’re not ready to give a try just yet, you could simply use your fingers and use the “come here” technique. When you’re ready, do experiment with sex toys and find the right one for you. Sex toys make G-spot stimulation easier and better, so they’re worth a try. Plus, finding a toy you enjoy will be a huge part of the fun!

3. Hit the Spot Directly

Now it’s time for direct G-spot stimulation! Even though not everyone enjoys hitting the spot directly, some people enjoy it so much they skip the second step altogether. If you really don’t enjoy direct stimulation, skip this step and stick with gentle stimulation, that’s completely valid.

But if you’re into intense stimulation and you want to feel really good, you can use your fingers, a dildo, a vibrator, or a penis to directly play with your G-spot and go to town. Be open to experimentation here! Some women like tapping motion and thrusting, but others will enjoy a circular motion or a massaging motion. Experiment and try different motions to see how you feel. Have fun with it!

4. Reaching the Finish Line… Maybe

G-spot stimulation leads some women directly to climax and some will even ejaculate, but others don’t get to the finish line, and that’s okay. You must keep in mind that even though orgasms feel amazing, they shouldn’t be the end-goal of any sexual interaction. The end-goal should be to enjoy yourself and feel good.

Even if G-spot stimulation doesn’t lead to orgasm, it can still feel amazing and pleasurable on its own. Once again, let me stress there’s nothing wrong with you if you don’t climax as a result of G-spot stimulation. If you do, you might want to keep going and use G-spot stimulation to experience more than one orgasm if you want. Or you could use different types of stimulation to keep the party going for as long as you want!

Ride the Wave

When you give G-spot stimulation a try, you may find it life-changing or you may not like what it feels like. Whatever the result, you’ll learn something about yourself. Some women swear by G-spot stimulation and they can’t get enough of it, others don’t feel a thing. That’s what makes sexuality so incredible and why experimentation is so much fun!

So, if you find that you’re not feeling the same way other women have described or you’re not experiencing anything at all, it doesn’t mean you’re broken or anything. It just means your body is different and you experience pleasure in other ways. Don’t stress about not being able to enjoy the same sexual experiences as other people. In fact, stressing is the easiest way to close yourself off from pleasure.

Don’t pressure yourself! Simply be patient with your body. When you’re stimulating new nerves, it can take some time for them to wake up to that stimulation. After all, they’re not used to it. So, give yourself time, go slow, and try new techniques. Also, don’t be afraid to combine more than one technique before you give up. Give it the best shot you’ve got!

We all have unique bodies and that’s a big part of the fun. With the right anatomy knowledge, a couple of great sex toys, a bit of patience, creativity, and a healthy sense of adventure you will learn a lot about your body. No one can guarantee your G-spot stimulation will work for you, but it’s well worth the try because you will still have a great time no matter what.