Tabuu Wrap-up: Some sexual acts are underrated, and handjobs are a great example of that. People don’t try too hard to do it well, but that needs to change!
Do you know how many people don’t think much (if anything) about handjobs? Some people even hate them. Well, I was one of those people. I didn’t have fun with handjobs at all! My arm hurt and I wished it was over as soon as I started. Eventually, I would just turn it into something else. I soon climbed on top of him and or turned it into a blowjob. Thinking about it now, I wonder how good it was for him…
A few years pass and I feel much better about handjobs. I don’t think of it as a chore anymore or something to get through. I enjoy touching my partner in ways that make him feel pleasure. And if a handjob is what he needs, I’m willing to do it.
Handjobs are definitely one of the most underrated sexual acts ever, and many of us don’t try to be good at them because we don’t enjoy them. And guys don’t complain, but we can definitely do better. If you’re like me and you’re not proud of your attitude towards handjobs, you can up your game! Here are 8 useful tips that will help you give him a handjob that will blow his mind and make you feel proud of yourself.
1. Lubrication Matters
It’s no joke that lube makes everything better. It’s just a fact of life. Lube prevents friction, which makes things a lot more comfortable and pleasurable for everyone. So, rub lube both on your hands and his penis so everything it super slippery. This will allow you to have more freedom of movement and you won’t have to worry about causing any discomfort. The right lube can also provide additional sensations, so keep that in mind!
2. Sprinkle Some Tongue Action
Though a handjob is very different from a blowjob, it doesn’t mean you can lick him once or twice. So, sprinkle some tongue action into your handjob across his slit or his glans and it will bring things to the next level. He won’t be expecting this, so the reaction will be that much better. If they like it, and they will don’t hesitate to make licking a part of your handjob technique.
2. Don’t Use Just One Hand
The most common complaint about giving handjobs is that our arms and wrists ache. But, guys and gals, that’s on us! When you perform the same motion over and over, of course it’s going to get uncomfortable for you. To avoid this, you need to use both hands. Not only to split the effort but also to try different things at once. For example, perform a twisting motion with one hand, and continue stroking his testicles, glans, or frenulum with your free hand. Go with the flow!
3. Mix Things Up
When you’re giving a handjob, it’s important to keep things interesting. Not just to provide more pleasure for him, but also to do it well. Don’t stick to one speed, change it up! Play with pressure as well, try different things, not just stroke his penis, squeeze, lick, do whatever feels right, and pay attention to his reaction. Boredom should not be a part of the handjob for any of you, so remember to have fun with it!
4. Pay Attention to the Balls
More often than not, we forget about testicles and how important they are for male sexual pleasure. This happens often during handjobs and blowjobs, so you need to remind yourself they exist and they’re a huge source of pleasure. When you’re using both hands, you can use one of them to cup his testicles, touch his skin, or lick them. Just pay a little attention to the balls and it will make a big difference.
5. Go Further Down
If you’re playing with his balls, why not go a little further down? Right between the scrotum and the anus you’ll find his perineum. This section of skin is very sensitive and if you rub it the right way, you will be surprised at his reaction. He won’t see it coming, but it will feel amazing and you will become the queen or king of handjobs. You’re welcome!
6. Pay Attention to What He Enjoys
Everyone is different and our genitals are also very unique. What works for one person won’t work for another because we respond to things differently. So, don’t assume what the penis in front of you likes. Don’t assume your technique will work equally on everyone. Instead, ask questions and also pay attention to their reactions and their body language so you can adjust as you go along and give them what they want!
7. Try the Virtual Version
Whether you’re in a long-distance relationship or you’re away from each other for whatever reason (a family trip, business trip, etc.), why not try something new? If you’re away from each other, you can take the opportunity to try something new and connect in a different way.
Virtual handjobs are a thing thanks to Kiiroo’s Pearl and Onyx set, which is an award-winning sex toy that makes it possible. It works like this: he wears the sleeve on his penis and you will handle the vibrator just like you would his real penis. Even in the distance, he will feel you. It’s strangely futuristic (boy is technology amazing), but if that doesn’t make you uncomfortable, you will really enjoy it.
The bottom line today is that handjobs shouldn’t feel boring or like a chore for any of you. It’s not something that should be forced in any way. Just like any other sexual act, handjobs are about experiencing pleasure and connecting in a different way. It’s also a way to get to know each other better in the bedroom and try different things to have fun! Not to mention it’s a win/win for everyone; he will be pleased and you will be rewarded because he will want to return the favor.
