Tabuu Wrap-up: Many people talk about how to give mind-blowing oral sex, but not everyone talks about how to get the most of it while you’re on the receiving end!
When you make a search on the topic of oral sex, many articles will pop up discussing how to do it right, tips and tricks you can use to blow his or her mind, and more. These types of articles seem to saturate the internet. That’s not an issue, though, those articles can be very useful. The issue is that everyone’s so focused on giving mind-blowing oral sex that no one’s talking about the best way to receive oral sex.
There are two sides to oral sex, so it’s not only the giver who has to make an effort. When you’re on the receiving end but you’re not in that mindset, you can miss out on a lot of the enjoyment that comes with it. Not to mention your partner’s efforts will be in vain.
Many people seem to think of oral sex like a competition or a race, and that can make it very difficult for receivers to relax and enjoy the pleasure they’re supposed to be receiving. So, as you can tell, there’s a problem on both ends.
On the giver end of the deal, you shouldn’t go into oral sex thinking your sole focus is to make your partner come. When you do that, you forget about being present in the moment and having fun because you’re too preoccupied with your goal. That’s not to say you shouldn’t care about your partner’s pleasure or be confident you can give them a good time. It’s just to say any kind of sexual activity is more than just about coming.
On the receiving end of the deal, you might also be preoccupied with other things so you also forget about living the moment. It’s common for women to be too concerned about their genitals to just let go and enjoy the experience. Some women worry about what their vagina looks like, smells like, or tastes like.
That’s why today’s article is not about how you can get better at giving oral sex, but about how you can get better at receiving it. This one is for everyone who can’t just lay there and enjoy themselves. This is for everyone who has issues communicating what they need and who want to rediscover their autonomy.
Before we get into the tips, I want to take a moment to make a note. This article is about helping women enjoy oral sex while they’re on the receiving end. The intention is not to be exclusionary, but I’m speaking about what I know from experience. That’s not to say these tips could not apply to men as well. If they do, I’m glad and I hope you let me know! Now, let’s get into the tips!
1. Learn to Get Comfortable
I know this first tip may seem obvious, but as I said before, many people rush through the set up for sex. And that’s not the right move! You want to take your time here. The more aroused you are before you even start playing with each other, the better. Not to mention creating an environment is very important, and you should also have the chance to communicate with each other.
Did you know that 80% of women fake orgasms? The motivation behind that is to spare their partners embarrassment. But if you do that, you become just as responsible as your partner for not having an orgasm in the first place. You don’t have to hurt your partner’s feelings or offer harsh criticism for them to learn how to please you.
All you need to do is talk to them about what feels good or showing them what feels good. This conversation can take place before or after sex, but what’s important is that it happens! You’re responsible for your pleasure, it’s your job to teach your partner what you enjoy and desire.
2. Don’t Overlook the Foreplay
Foreplay is a huge part of what it means to get comfortable before you get down to it. It’s so important, that I decided to talk about it individually. Oral sex requires the effort of both people involved if it’s going to be pleasurable. When most people think of foreplay, they look at it like a chore that should only take up to 15 minutes. But that’s not the right way of looking at it!
If you want to give and receive bomb oral sex, it’s important you’re both extremely turned on before you get into it. That means you can’t overlook foreplay and you shouldn’t rush through it. On the contrary, take your sweet time with it and get creative. Look at foreplay as an extension of sex, instead of a hurdle you have to get through. Women need partners to pay attention to foreplay because it makes the sexual experience a hundred times better for them.
Paying attention to foreplay and taking your time with it will certainly require self-control. But trust me, the effort will be worth it in the end for both of you! Foreplay can also allow your bodies to do the talking, which will allow you to be on the same page once you’re ready to take things further.
3. Know What You Like
When you’re on the receiving end of oral sex, it’s very important to know what you like and to understand how your body experiences pleasure. How can you do that? Through masturbation, of course! If you don’t know your body and what you like, how do you expect you’ll be able to communicate it to someone else?
Figure out what you like and what works for you. Have fun with yourself, use sex toys, use lube, watch porn, read erotica, get inspired! Do whatever you need to do to figure out what your pleasure is about. Explore your body entirely and find your hotspots so you can guide your partner later.
If you feel up to it, you could masturbate while your partner is watching so they can really get to know you and how you like being touched. Not to mention it’s an intense, super-hot experience that you’ll both enjoy once you get over how vulnerable you may feel at first.
Before I leave you to ponder these three essential tips, let me say something else. When it comes to sex, you need to go in with a light heart. Don’t be so obsessed about orgasms that you forget about what matters! When you’re having such an intimate moment with your partner, the focus should be on enjoying each other and connecting as a couple.
Stay in the moment and focus on the things that feel good instead of focusing on the end result. When you do that, orgasms will happen more naturally and you’ll enjoy them a lot more.
When you find yourself on the receiving end of oral sex, your pleasure is as much your responsibility as it if your partner’s. That’s why it’s so important you learn to be comfortable, relax, enjoy yourself, and communicate with your partner. Trust me, it will make all the difference in the world!