Tabuu Wrap-up: Focus on your physical, mental, and sexual health to pound through your 40’s, just like you did in your 20’s and 30’s
As I turned 40, I found myself getting a prostate exam at my doctor’s office. Upon seeing my penis rise as she examined my prostate, the nurse that performed the exam joked about how there wasn’t any doubt about my sexual health. Naturally, I was very curious about how many men in their 40s were being diagnosed with prostate cancer or had sexual dysfunction issues.
The nurse told me she didn’t have any specific stats for me, but one thing she knew for sure was that African-American men over 40 years old were at a higher risk of prostate cancer, and that half of the men have sexual dysfunction issues.
That’s the moment I realized I need to be a lot more mindful of my physical and sexual health for the following year. I’m 41 today and I’ve recently made another visit to the doctor’s office to find out I had reached my goal. I was physically and sexually healthier than the year before. Than ever, actually! And I was also happier.
I’m not a licensed physician nor do I pretend to be. But I do want to share my experience so you may find improvement as well. This is why today I’m discussing the 5 great tips that worked for me and allowed me to have better sex at 40. Trust me, I got nothing to envy from 30 or 20 year-olds, and neither will you.
1. Consciously Adopt a High Protein/Low-Fat Diet
The risk of erectile dysfunction is linked to many different things, most notably obesity and diabetes. When you reach your 40s, no matter what career path you decided to go through, you will have an established career. That means you’re most likely to be busy and you don’t have the time to stop and think about how well you’re eating.
Slowly but surely I made the switch from chicken wings after happy hour to sauteing greens, roasting potatoes, and grilling meat. A high protein/low-fat diet is not only healthier than whatever you’re doing, but it also allows for a higher blood flow, which makes you feel at least 10 years younger.
2. Safely Experimenting with Kink
To anyone who thinks an old dog can’t possibly learn new tricks: I’ve got news for you, we can and we must. Something as simple as wearing a blindfold so your senses are heightened during sex can make orgasm that much more intense. Exposing yourself to kink, little by little, will not only lead to better sex than ever before, but it will also make you feel more confident about yourself.
Kink is exciting and when it’s completed successfully, that level of excitement can even be extrapolated to other aspects of your life and it helps you embrace the youth that’s still inside you. There’s a misconception about turning 40, that suddenly you stop being curious or adventurous. But I encourage you to do the exact opposite, especially in the bedroom.
Cardiovascular fitness must be a priority for you. It should’ve always been a priority, but it’s especially true when you turn 40. I dabble in half-marathons and I can tell you the “runner’s high” is 100% real. When you run and take care of your heart, your serotonin, dopamine, and cortisol come together to make this soup of wonderful chemicals coursing through your body.
Serotonin is linked to happiness, dopamine is linked to controlling reward-oriented behavior, and cortisol is a metabolic steroid; mix them all together and you’ll have an amazing physical response. Running doesn’t only allow you to be healthier, it also leads to greater sex, so you might want to consider running a mile or two every day!
For years and years, people have been talking about the benefits of practicing meditation and mindfulness. And while many may roll their eyes at it; you can’t knock it until you try it because it truly does make a difference.
Yoga is a great way to get into meditation and mindfulness. Before you discard the possibility because you’re imagining yourself in bendy positions, think about it. Yoga is not only about the positions, it’s about freeing your body and your mind, as well as awakening your spirit. You will come in touch with your primal energy and you’ll be able to tap into it, allowing you to feel amazing.
5. Be Inspired By Porn
The previous 4 tips are all about having the health and motivation for a better sex life after 40. But now it’s time to talk about inspiration. Reaching 40 is the perfect moment to sit back and consider your sex life with a bit more attention than before. Do you want your next sexual experience to be better than the last one?
If the answer is yes, then signing up for a paid pornography site is a great idea. Once you start paying for porn, the difference in quality control becomes evident and it’s exactly what you want. Plus, if you’re not into a certain fetish, you can always find yours.
Luckily, there’s not only one pornography category, there are hundreds. The point of signing up is to find inspiration so you can attempt to achieve that one fantasy you’ve never allowed yourself. Whether that’s on your own or with a partner is completely up to you. Fantasies are worth exploring and you shouldn’t continue putting it off!
I would like to remind you I am not a physician, but these 5 tips I’ve just discussed have made a huge difference in my physical, mental, and sexual health. I’m the happiest I’ve ever been at 41 and I wouldn’t change a thing. Getting older doesn’t have to keep you away from sex. Instead, take it as an opportunity to discover a new layer of excitement and unlock a new level of fulfillment in your sex life.