Tabuu Wrap-up: Anal sez is truly amazing when it’s planned, both partners are well-educated on the subject, and you have all the time in the world to enjoy and relax!
We could throw surveys at you for days, quote major publications, share prominent stories, discuss porn, and more. We could even show you the data we’ve gathered for our website. But none of that is necessary for you to know that anal sex is at the top of many sex bucket lists out there.
And why shouldn’t it be? After all, the anus is full of nerve endings that are sensitive and provide a ton of potential for pleasure. Not to mention the P-spot and the G-spot are super close, which makes it even better.
Another great thing about anal sex is that it’s not as taboo as it used to be, so it’s a great option for people who want to explore their sexuality and are curious about this kind of sexual experience.
If you’ve never tried anal sex, and even if you have, you may have a lot of questions about it. This is why we’ve talked to Alicia Sinclair, the founder of b-Vibe, and we’ve gotten some questions for you! This company specializes in anal toys, so we’re certain she knows a thing or two! So, let’s answer your 9 most asked questions about anal sex.
1. What Exactly Is Involved in Anal Play?
If your partner really wants to give anal a try, you may be wondering what anal play entails exactly. And it really depends! You must absolutely discuss what your partner’s expectations and desires are, but you need to be aware of the fact that there are many options.
According to Alicia, anal play can be anything from a massage around the anus to using sex toys for penetration. In between all that, you’ll find fingering, analingus, pegging, and P-spot stimulation. So, anal play it’s not just about anal penetration. There’s actually a lot more to try, which is good news for beginners who don’t want (and shouldn’t) jump on the deep end of the pool.
2. What Does It Feel Like to Have Something In Your Ass?
It’s not surprising this is one of the most common questions about anal sex and the answer is: it doesn’t feel like anything you’ve tried before, and that’s exactly what draws people to it. It feels very different from vaginal penetration and many people describe it as explosive, tight, intimate, and a unique way of experiencing pleasure.
3. Are Anal Orgasms a Real Thing?
Yes, they are! For women, anal penetration can stimulate the A-spot and lead to orgasm, which seems to be similar to G-spot orgasms and some people say it’s even more intense. For men, anal penetration can stimulate the P-spot, leading to bigger and more intense full-body orgasms. So, yes, anal orgasms are a real thing.
4. People Say Anal Hurts. How Can I Make Sure It Doesn’t?
In Alicia’s words, the anal sphincter is “strong, but delicate.” What this means is that it takes time to make it come out in play. This is precisely why the key to anal play is starting slow. You want to start gently! First, stimulate the anus and the area around it externally, then, you can insert a finger or a small toy before you move on to something bigger.
Anal penetration is a process and it takes practice to get there. The more relaxed and comfortable you learn to be, the easier anal penetration becomes. The key is not to rush through anything. This is not a sprint nor a race! So, the key to making sure anal sex doesn’t hurt is to go slowly and use a whole lot of lube.
5. I’m Not Ready for Anal Penetration, But How Can I Start With Anal Play?
If you’re not ready for anal penetration yet, that’s perfectly fine. There are plenty of other ways to give anal play a try. You can start by tickling the exterior of the anus during oral sex, or sliding a finger during intercourse. You can also experiment with analingus or rimming; plenty of people enjoy that. You can also try a small toy and use it for practice until you’re ready for bigger things. It’s entirely up to you and the choices are many!
6. Can Things Really Get Sucked in?
Yes, things really do get sucked in if you’re not careful. Remember your anus is connected to the rectum, which is connected to the large intestine, which is virtually a super long sucker. To give you some perspective, the vagina has a dead-end when you hit the cervix. But your butt? Your butt just keeps going, which means you need to be very careful about what you put up there.
Every toy you use must have a big, flared base or a nice handle, something you can grip to hold onto the toy. In other words, the sex toys you use have to be designed specifically for anal play. Don’t ever improvise and use other things as anal toys. Is that clear? Okay, great!
7. What Makes a Good Anal Toy?
According to Alicia, there are three key aspects to keep in mind when you’re browsing for the perfect anal toy for you:
- Make sure you choose the right size for you. If you’re a beginner, start small and work towards bigger toys. Don’t get the biggest one right off the bat. And if you’re experienced, keep your expectations realistic as well.
- Your anal toys should have a flared based, a ring, or any other kind of feature for safe grip during anal play.
- Always go for high-quality materials that are non-porous. They’re not only easier to clean and more long-lasting, but they’ll also prevent your anus from irritating. Body-safe, phthalate-free, and latex-free products are the way to go.
8. Be Honest With Me: Is There Going to Be Poop?
This is one of the most common concerns for many people, and the short answer is: maybe. Bodily emissions are sometimes an unavoidable part of sex, any kind of sex, and anal sex is not the exception.
There is a possibility that some pop will be present at any given moment. But if you’re really concerned, Alicia recommends getting an enema. Enemas will allow you to get your anal canal nice and clean, and you’ll have one less thing to worry about. If enemas are not for you, then make sure you empty your bowels at least a couple hours before and you clean your anus very well with soap and water.
9. Now That I Feel More Ready, What’s the Best Way to Enjoy Anal Sex?
Anal sex is best when it’s planned in advance, both partners are well-educated on the subject, and you have plenty of time to relax. Anal sex is not the kind of sexual experience you can have at any given moment, on a whim. It requires some preparation and planning, which is a big part of what will make the experience so pleasurable and enjoyable, so I wouldn’t neglect that aspect of it!