Tabuu Wrap-up: Squirting can be a truly amazing experience, but it’s not for everyone and it’s widely misunderstood!
Have you ever seen a woman squirt on film or on one of those sex GIFs we find from time to time? Did you think you were being tricked and that it was just another unrealistic expectation? Well, think again.
Squirting, also known as female ejaculation, is real for many women. It’s not a trick! And as it’s often the case with sexual things, squirting can be spectacular or barely produce a few drops. Not to mention not everyone can squirt, which is not a problem at all.
However, if you’ve had enough of hearing about squirting and you want to see what the big deal is, this guide can help you reach a squirting orgasm or at least give it your best shot! Just remember, sex is about having fun and enjoying yourself, it shouldn’t be a source of stress and frustration.
If you find you can’t squirt, don’t feel like you’re missing out on something or you’re broken. This isn’t something that should lead you to question your sexual ability. Like I said, not everyone can do it, but that doesn’t mean you can’t experience pleasure in many other ways. If squirting is fascinating to you and you want to give it a try, this guide will help you do that, but remember squirting is not required to have an amazing time in bed!
What the Heck Is Squirting?
Squirting. Spurting. Gushing. Female ejaculation. This type of female orgasm consists of expelling a rush of fluid at the moment you climax. It happens a lot in pornography, which has led to so much debate as to whether it’s real or not. The truth is that squirting is sometimes faked in adult movies, but sometimes it isn’t, and women can accomplish it in real as well.
However, every woman is unique and not everyone can perform the kind of fountain-like squirting that’s so often featured in porn. Some women don’t even wet the bed and some don’t squirt every time they orgasm. If you want to actively squirt when you orgasm, you need to remember that the more you try, the tenser you’ll be, which will make squirting more elusive.
Why and How Does Squirting Occur?
If you ask women what makes them squirt, each one will provide a different answer. For some women, G-spot stimulation is a must. Others need a combination of clitoral stimulation and G-spot stimulation. Personally, the more relaxed I am and the more my body’s stimulated during foreplay, the easier it is to squirt and it only takes steady clitoral stimulation.
Squirting is not new by any means. The discovery of the G-spot took place in the 40s, which is not so long ago. All it takes to find the G-spot is to lay down, insert a couple of fingers into your vagina, and press into the top of your vaginal wall until you find a spongy nub of tissue. However, squirting has been documented in history as early as first-century Rome.
Often, squirting is associated with G-spot stimulation, so this elusive hotspot in women’s bodies tends to be the focus of discussions about squirting orgasms. Steady and direct G-spot stimulation can indeed lead to squirting for some women under the right circumstances. Let’s learn how!
How to Squirt: Step By Step
No one can guarantee you will squirt when you orgasm, not even if you try every trick in the book. Many factors will affect a woman’s ability to squirt. Our mental health, our ability to relax, our mood, and our bodies all play a role when it comes to enjoying physical stimulation that leads to squirting. Sometimes it doesn’t matter how relaxed you get or how perfect your technique is, the fact is not everyone can squirt. But it sure is fun to give it a shot!
Squirting is not proof of desire or a requirement for sexual fulfillment by any means. It also doesn’t determine how pleasurable or healthy an encounter is. However, if you want to try it, these tips will be of great help:
1. Stay Hydrated
A very important part of preparing is to stay hydrated. Drink enough water before you get to it. Your chances of squirting are higher if you’re well-hydrated, so you need to make sure you drink your water. In fact, make it a daily habit!
2. Prepare the Space
If you’re trying to squirt, you want to make sure you prepare your space. You don’t want to have to change your sheets every time you try or stain your mattress in the process. So, put a towel down, use old sheets, or cover your mattress, among other options. Do whatever you need to make sure your bed doesn’t get wet and you’ll have on less thing to worry about.
3. Find Your Zen
You really need to relax if you want to have a better shot at squirting. If you’re too in your head about squirting and you’re worried or stress about it, it’s less likely to happen. So, do whatever you need to do to find your zen. Play sexy music, dim the lights, enjoy your own skin, cuddle with your partner, etc. Whatever helps you let go of the stress will work!
4. Take Your Time With Foreplay
Warming up is very important if you want to give squirting an honest try, so make sure you take your time with foreplay. As much as you need! Foreplay is a great way to help you relax, both mentally and physically. Foreplay is not a chore that you need to get through, it’s an opportunity to expand your pleasure. So, make sure you do whatever makes you feel good. Whether that’s kissing or cuddling, spanking or sensory play, take your time with it and enjoy it.
5. Use Lube If You Need It
Sometimes our bodies don’t produce enough natural fluid to get things going as they should. That’s why you should use lube if you need it. In fact, using lube even when you don’t need it is a great idea. After all, lubrication makes everything more pleasurable and intense, so don’t shy away from it!
6. First Up: G-Spot Stimulation
The first thing you want to try is G-spot stimulation. Squirting orgasms can take time to build up for many women. So, you need to be patient with yourself. Start with G-spot stimulation and go from there. If this kind of stimulation is not pleasurable for you, then go straight to clitoral stimulation.
7. Use Your Fingers
Insert one or two fingers, whatever’s comfortable, and then bend them in a “come here” motion. When you do that, you’ll feel the vaginal wall, so you’ll want to find that spongy little area known as the G-spot. Once you’ve tracked it down, stimulate it by applying pressure and playing with speed.
8. Listen to Your Body
Whether you’re playing with yourself or you’re doing this with a partner, you must listen and pay attention to your body or communicate so you can enjoy the kind of stimulation that’s most pleasurable. If you’re doing it on your own, pay attention to your body, and follow your own lead. If you’re doing it with your partner, don’t be afraid to speak up and provide guidance as you go.
9. Try Thrusting
If tapping on the G-spot doesn’t do much for you, try a thrusting motion. As you or your partner thrust, press your free hand against your pubic bone to add more friction and pressure from the outside. If this doesn’t do much either, you might want to try a sex toy! I suggest the Soraya or the Key Comet G Wand. They’re both great options to help you stimulate your G-spot.
10. Provide Extra Stimulation
You don’t have to stick with just one kind of stimulation, you can stimulate different hotspots at once, especially if you’re playing with someone else. For example, stimulate your clit, nipples, or other erogenous zones at the same time for extra stimulation.
11. Pay Attention to the Sensation
When you’re about to squirt, you will feel a familiar sensation, but in a different context. You will feel the same kind of pressure you experience when you need to pee. This is exactly why many people think squirting is actually pee, not ejaculation.
12. Let Go
If you feel what I’m describing, what you need to do is let go. Relax your muscles completely and allow your body to simply take the leap. You won’t pee yourself, so don’t hold back. Loosen your muscles and allow yourself to finally squirt.
When you’re done, make sure you enjoy your downtime. Ride the wave for as long as you can, and then make sure to rehydrate. If you squirt hard enough and multiple times, you can become dehydrated and it’s not nice at all.
If you followed these steps and you felt a warm fluid coming out of you during climax, then you’re officially squirted. Congrats! If it doesn’t happen for you, that’s okay. Don’t worry about it. Sometimes squirting takes a bit of practice, just like multiple orgasms. And if it doesn’t work for you, at least you gave it your best shot.
Squirting is not a must and it doesn’t make you more or less of a woman. Continue trying to squirt as long as it’s fun for you. But if it becomes a source of frustration or stress, find some other sexual activity to accomplish. If something leads you to feel inadequate in your sexual life, just stop doing it and find something else you can truly enjoy.
If you want more tips, make sure you do your research! There are many other resources out there that provide more tips that will help you give squirting a better shot. There are books and literally millions of resources online, so you won’t have an issue finding more information. There are even online courses for squirting! Squirting orgasms are intriguing to many, which is precisely why there’s so much information on the subject. So, don’t hesitate to look for it!
Squirt Is Not Pee
The debate on whether squirt is pee or genuine ejaculation is ongoing, online, and elsewhere, particularly among squirters. According to a small but heavily publicized study that looked at 7 self-proclaimed squirters, the fluid that squirts out during climax contains properties that are similar to urine, so it must be pee. Understandably, we all called BS on that.
This led to a whole movement, initiated by Epiphora, a sex blogger and reviewer who started the hashtag #NotPee to encourage squirters to talk about their personal experiences and create awareness.
It’s not fair women spend years and years denying themselves orgasms because they fear they’re going to pee themselves. That’s what they’ve been told. They haven’t been taught that what they think might be peeing themselves is actually squirting. This is just one of the many ways women have been denied their pleasure.
The debate of pee vs. not pee has been going for years and it doesn’t seem to slow down. Some studies have proven the chemical properties of squirt and pee are different, but there are others who say the contrary. In short, science hasn’t made up its mind about squirt, which is why there’s still so much confusion around it. I lean towards the side of the debate that doesn’t think its pee. Maybe it’s wishful thinking, but it doesn’t smell like urine or feel like urine, so I have my doubts.
My Squirting Experience
The first time I had an orgasm I was 32 years old and I squirted. Every time I was brought to the brink of an orgasm, I stopped myself because I felt like I was going to pee. This created a lot of issues in my life with partners that truly cared about my pleasure. They tried so hard to make me come, and I couldn’t stop holding back. That’s until I started masturbating. I decided to take control, give it a shot, and finally let go. If I peed, no one would be the wiser. But I didn’t pee, I squirted, and I had my first and most intense orgasm. I don’t always squirt and it’s not always a puddle. But squirting is possible and it’s definitely not pee.
Experience the Squirt… Or Not!
Squirting can be a part of your bucket list, but when you’re giving it a try, keep in mind it doesn’t happen to all women and that’s perfectly fine. Also, it’s important to note that squirting once won’t guarantee you will squirt every single time. Sometimes it won’t happen or you won’t squirt as much as you did before. That’s all perfectly normal.
If you decide to give squirting an honest shot, you need to learn to relax and keep your expectations at bay. Even if you don’t experience the squirt, you’re still a sexy, incredible woman and you can explore your pleasure in many different ways. If one thing doesn’t work for you, luckily there are many different things to try.
Orgasms, whether regular or squirting, are a part of your sexual journey, but they’re not the goal. Enjoying the ride is just as important as coming, so make sure you have fun, whether that’s with yourself or with someone else. That’s the only way to experience true, mind-blowing, ecstatic pleasure no matter what you try!