- Sharing the bed with other couples can be super fun and sexy as long as everyone knows what they want. Swinging is not a new practice by any means; the term has been a part of our culture for decades. The only real change is that people are a lot more aware of it and talk about it more freely.
If you are ready to try this out, as a couple, and start an exciting sexual adventure together, you might be looking to understand how everything works. And that’s exactly what we’ll do today.
If you’re wondering how you can get into swinging, or “the lifestyle”, with your partner, here are the 6 most important things to think about before you get into it.
1. Know Why You Want to Join the Swinger Ranks
Every time we want to try something new in the bedroom, it’s important to know why and to discuss it openly with our partner. Open communication about what you think of the matter is key. Whether you want to mix things up, try something new or are curious about experiencing pleasure in a different way, there all common reasons to want to get into swinging.
But if you’re going into it for the wrong reasons, you will be disappointed. Swinging will not help you solve the problems in your relationship; at best, it will be a band-aid. Swinging is for couples with a healthy relationship who want to experience a different kind of dynamic together.
2. Figure Out How to Go About It
One of the fun things about swinging is there are many ways to explore it. You can take baby steps in local parties for swingers or get right into a swinger cruise. Figuring out how to go about it will depend not only on your preferences as a couple, but also on your budget and the kind of excitement you’re looking for. I know you’re both looking forward to it, but take the time to decide what’s the best way to step into the water.
3. Consider Going Online First
If swinger parties, clubs or cruises are a little too intimidating to be your first step, there are other alternatives. You can meet swinger couples online and take it a bit slower that way. There are many online dating sites where you can find couples with the same interests as you.
Just take your time creating your profile and make it interesting, upload photos and be honest about what you want. When you make a connection with a couple, make sure you meet them in person before hooking up. This will allow you to confirm there’s a connection and you’re all vibing together.
4. Ground Rules Are Important, So Set Them
Swinging is a lifestyle and you’re new to it, so one of the most important things to do is to set ground rules. For example, be aware of each other’s limits. Are you comfortable seeing your partner be intimate with someone else? Do you want to be there or not? Do you want your partner to be there or not? What if you’re in a swing party and you want to leave, will you be okay with your partner staying behind? There are so many things to discuss, so make sure you do that first.
5. Work on Your Confidence
Swingers are attracted to people with great personality and confidence, so if you want step into this world, you’ll need to work on your charisma and persona. Many people actually take this opportunity to express parts of themselves that they choose not to in other aspects of their lives.
Essentially, you’ll have to be able to pick up other couples and also be the kind of couple others want to pick up. That’s why it’s important to present yourself in an attractive way. It’s also common for people to use aliases, so if you want to do that, you can.
6. Consider Joining a Swinger Club
You wouldn’t think it, but there might be more than just a couple swinger clubs in your area. A quick Google search will allow you to find them and get a better understanding of how they work. Swinger clubs are definitely a good idea, especially if you’re feeling more comfortable in the community and are ready to start attending swinger parties and other events. Just dress nicely, show up on time, and have fun!
Stepping into the lifestyle is easy once you are both aware of how things work and how you should go about it. Whether it’s meeting couples online, going to swinger parties, joining a swinger club or going on a cruise for swingers, you will still have a some of the greatest moments of your life.
It’s just a matter of understanding each other’s desires and respecting each other’s limits. It’s also about doing it for the right reasons! The swinger lifestyle is meant to be exciting and fun, so if you find you’re not enjoying yourselves, it might not be for you.