Tabuu Wrap-up: Clumsy licking and intense kissing are not the way to go. All it takes is a few key moves to blow her mind during oral sex!
Were you aware of the fact that only 30% of women can have orgasms via vaginal sex? This means that penetration is not the most effective way to please a woman. It takes a little bit more work and it’s a great idea to have a few tricks up your sleeve. Many women love oral sex, but it’s not easy to do it right. If you want to learn new tricks and figure out what it takes to blow your woman’s mind during oral sex, keep reading!
1. Don’t Rush It
Even though your tongue is wet and soft, it won’t feel good in a dry vagina. This is why you must take your time during foreplay so you get her going before you head downstairs. You want her to be fully turned on, so take the time to kiss her, touch her body, and get her all warmed up. If you think lubricants are a shortcut for that, think again! They won’t be as effective if she’s not already turned one, and only foreplay can do that.
When you got her all worked up, keep taking your time. Don’t go down too fast but more tease her. More often than not, oral sex is considered a part of foreplay or a prelude to intercourse, it’s not always the main act. And it’s true that oral sex can be a great way to turn women on, but if you suddenly stop, she’ll be disappointed. So, take the time to drag it out and she’ll be asking for more.
2. Compliment Her, Talk Sweet Nothings
Most women enjoy oral sex a lot, but it also makes them feel self-conscious. Women worry a lot about their vaginas, how they look, how they smell, how they taste. So it can be very uncomfortable for them even though their partners enjoy it. If you want her to relax and feel good enough to enjoy oral sex, tell her how much you love it, and compliment her.
3. Find a Good Position
Finding the perfect position for oral sex is super important if you want to avoid aches and pains, not to mention provide more pleasure. To find a position that works, try different things. Use furniture, cushions, or sex props to find the perfect level of comfort and once you find something that works, enjoy it.
4. Mind Your Tongue
There are two different tongue techniques a lover can use during oral sex, the soft, gentle tongue, or the strong, insistent, rigid tongue. Many women tend to prefer one of the two, but others enjoy oral sex more when their partners mix things up and combine the two. The only way to figure it out is to ask your partner and communicate with her. The best oral sex is the one that can’t be predicted, so go with the flow of the moment and lick, kiss, swirl, suck, and probe as much as you like, just don’t make the mistake of doing one thing over and over.
5. Pay Attention to the Clitoris
The clitoris is one of the most sensitive spots on a woman’s body. It has four times more nerve endings as the penis’ head and they’re all in a much smaller area. So, if you stimulate it the same way, it will feel mind-blowingly amazing. Good blow jobs make the penis the star, and good cunnilingus must to the same with the clit. So, you want to pay attention to it! Just make sure you’re gentle, remember it’s super sensitive.
6. But Don’t Neglect Everything Else
Though the clitoris should be a focus point, it’s not the only part of her body that requires attention. Her labia and her inner things are active erogenous zones, so softly kiss her here, tease her, make her beg for it. Don’t go right for the clitoris, build anticipation first! Trust me, it will make oral sex incredible.
7. Mix Things Up
When it comes right down to basics, oral sex only requires two consenting partners. On its own, that can be very exciting. However, you should consider the possibility of introducing other elements and trying new things to take the experience to the next level. You could use sex toys, lube, engage in temperature play, and many other elements to add that element of surprise she won’t be expecting.
8. Listen to Her
You can do as much research as you want on sex toys and tips, but the truth is that women are all different. That means they want and enjoy different things. The best way to figure out what it takes to please your partner is communicating with them. Not only that, you need to pay attention during oral sex and also listen to her. When you’re going down on her, pay attention to her body language and the way she moves, the way she responds to what you’re doing. If you notice something’s working, do it more. If something’s not getting you a big response, try something else.
Oral sex is truly an art, so for you to become really good at it, you need to practice and take your time with it. Looking for tips and tricks works, but when it comes right down to it, you need to learn from what she likes and adjust your approach accordingly.